Bridge Building

I had a fascinating discussion yesterday about something called the “orgasm gap.” I talk about this all the time but yesterday I learned it actually has a scientific name. Fancy! The gap in question is this: men cum relatively easily and do nearly every time they have sex; women, on the hand….well, you mamas know […] Read more…

Valentine’s Day, the anti-sexy holiday

Valentine’s Day is here. Are you expecting me to give you tips and tricks on how to make it hotter? Crazy positions that’ll have you swinging from the ceiling fan? That’s probably what I should be saying but frankly, you can get that kind of content on every Cosmo, Bustle, and Refinery29 website. Truthfully, there’s […] Read more…

Sex Talk So Hot It Makes Lightening

I’ve been doing so much thinking lately. My therapist would say too much thinking, actually. And lots of this ruminating has been about you guys…the women I talk to everyday and help and advise and commiserate with. And how I don’t want this to be a blog where I just moan and complain because that’s […] Read more…

Running Downhill Naked

This past August, I stood in front of you guys pretty damn naked. I shared some pretty difficult things about my marriage and the status of my sex life at the time. Pressing the “post” button on that piece was damn scary. People are always surprised when I tell them I’m scared to post something […] Read more…

A Love/Hate Relationship

I hate my c-section scar. There, I said it. I said the thing I’m not supposed to say. But the ugly truth is that I hate mine. I don’t look at that big, raw, jagged line that runs across my pubic bone as anything other than a burden. Like it’s an annoying relative I have […] Read more…

Sex Is Valuable Currency & You Set The Exchange Rate

A few weeks ago, a close friend texted “listen to what I did yesterday and tell me if I’m a whore.” She proceeded to tell me there was an expensive dress she wanted. Badly. Very, very badly. She works and makes her own money but the family was under a spending restriction due to the […] Read more…

My name is No. For Now.

I haven’t had sex in over three weeks. I run a sex business and yet I haven’t had sex in over 21 days. Nope, it’s not a health thing or a period that never ends thing. It’s a marriage thing. And here’s what I mean. I’ve had a hard time connecting with Lumberjack recently. Like, […] Read more…

Foreplay…delicious food for thought

A few weeks ago, I hosted a trunk show for about 30 women. When I do a big trunk show like that, I tend to give a little welcome speech; I highlight some of my favorites goodies on the table, I joke, I demonstrate and I try to get the women to feel as comfortable […] Read more…

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